because everything i did led me here."
really? NO regrets? in your entire life?
i regret
saying things that hurt other's feelings,
not stopping that day when the woman was on the side of the road,
not licensing our car on time,
eating that quesadilla at midnight,
barking at my kids yesterday,
not doing the dishes more often,
not speaking out about abuse sooner,
letting my emotional eating habits continue,
buying those red shoes that were so cute, but left a permanent scar on my big toe,
wasting time on stupid guys in college,
getting that perm in high school,
not finishing college when i had the chance,
i mean...i could go on and on.
a life with no regrets? baloney.
what do YOU regret?
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i agree! i can't stand when people say that.
i regret not being more confident when i was younger.
i regret dating a certain guy in high school. he was such a loser and all he ever did was make me feel bad about myself.
i regret that i ever stopped running. when i use to run i was so fit and now when i run i just feel fat-- which puts me in quite a quandary since i don't want to feel fat but in order to not feel fat i really should run more.
i regret every time i've made my kids feel anything other than loved because my family is the reason i live and breathe.
i regret holding onto hurt feelings and not forgiving sooner.
I regret not seeing my worth earlier.
I regret an extremely abusive marriage.
I regret not protecting my children and self from that.
I regret the excuses I made.
I regret not taking control of my life earlier.
Oh boy. How much time do you have?
My biggest regret:
.... not being patient enough with my kids. This is my biggest regret, although it makes me feel a little better that I now have 3 awesome young adults. But it still eats me up.
Regrets..I think it's ok to have regret, but it's not ok to dwell on it.
I regret NOT speaking up when I should have.
: ) kristy
Maybe the saying should be: I have regrets but I'm trying to learn from them. Because it is untrue that you have no regrets, but sometimes I pretend like I don't because I'm trying to use those experiences to become better. It doesn't mean I don't wish I got it right the first time (or second, or third, or fiftieth), but that I'm trying not to dwell on it and drag myself down.
But the regrets I try to learn from are not having enough patience with my children or playing with them more. Not taking better care of my body. Not reading scriptures or saying prayers as often as I should. Not being as grateful for my husband as he deserves.
Oh gosh. I have lots of regrets. Letting the boys I dated before I got married be in control of everything. Saying I love you when I didn't mean it. Not talking to my boss about what was going on at work (and then getting fired because of it). Not going on a mission. Lots and lots of parenting mistakes. Buying our condo in Clearfield instead of renting. Not going to state my senior year of high school. The list could go on and on and on.
I used to spend a lot of time regretting that I dind't get my undergrad degree from BYU, but something happened last year that made me realize that was kind of a dumb regret. (Go Lobos!)
I regret that I was immature and self-centered for far too long and I didn't properly acknowledge all the great people that had reached out to me when I was younger.
Generally I regret that I did anything mean when I knew better
(But honestly, if I really, truly knew better, I'd like to believe I would have done better. And that's what I think people mean about not regretting anything.)
I agree with you in general about this. Everyone has things that they regret, but dwelling on it only makes life hard.
I regret way too much. Some of it is still with me. Some of it isn't. But I feel like I am a work in progress, so it is all okay.
The thing that I regret most at the moment is not being true to myself and not being active in the church for the past 3 years. This is something that is starting to change, slowly, but surely. But it is a big regret.
I think people who say that are the same sort of people who also say that salad is their favorite food and it is better to have loved and lost--aka they are trying a little too hard to be awesome. I regret stuff on a daily basis. But I also repent just about as often. Life is messy and trying to deny that is just crazy. It's posts like these that make me love your blog so much even though I don't know you and I'm not a scrapbooker--you are just so real and sincere.
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