A. That my children would always stay close to each other and to me. Yes, I know they will fight, but the thought of my children become adults and being estranged from each other, the way my family is, is heartbreaking. I think so much of the problems in my own family - that they were caused by the terrible divorce and abuse we all faced. We never had a chance to form a solid foundation of unfettered and unconditional love for one another....that opportunity was lost in our attempts to emotionally survive that storm. So, I feel hopeful that my own children's relationships will have a head start to being meaningful and well-maintained adult relationships since they are free from those restrictions.
I want my children to mourn having to be apart from each other, the way we mourn not being geographically close to my Husband's family back in Utah. I love the East Coast so much and I want to stay here forever...except that it's too far from Matt's wonderful family. No, they are not perfect...nor is any family, but at their core they love, support and care for each other unconditionally and they always look for and find the best in each other in a way that I had not known until joining their family.
I try to do things each day and each week in our daily lives that will bond my children together in a way that cannot be broken. We try to hold regular family prayer, family nights and read scriptures together. My most stringent rules are those pertaining to how we treat each other within this family. Ella and Evangeline fight with each other these days, but I hope that by the time they have reached adulthood, the foundation of their unconditional caring for each other will be strong enough to weather any storm.
What is YOUR wish for the future?
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I'm saying ditto to your wish. Our family grew up super close, creating lots of great memories along the way. I too mourn the distant relationship I have with a couple of my siblings in our adulthood. I work to keep my anxiety at bay when I consider the same thing happening to my own children.
I don't know what my wish is. But I do know that it is possible to fight like cats and dogs as kids and grow up to be best friends. All 6 of us fought like crazy...constantly. And sometimes we still fight. But we're grown-ups and it's awesome being friends now. The relationship that surprises me most is the one I have with my sister Ellen. She despised me, I think from the time I was born. But somehow we became friends--I'm still not sure how--and I would be totally lost without her now. I'm so grateful for my family.
I just started reading your blog and love the question. I wish my family to stay close. My family is really close but my husbands family are not close so I wish us to stay like my family. If I could have 2 things, I want my kids to marry great people.
My biggest wish for the future is total happiness for my daughter. I want her to make good choices, have good strong core values that never waiver, and just to be a good person. I literally think about this EVERYDAY.
I have to say that I don't know you 'personally', but I can tell that you have a GREAT testimony of the gospel. I KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt that if your children know of your testimony and live by their testimonies as you are, they will be forever close to each other, their parents, and their Father in Heaven, and they will thank you for it. :)
Thank you for letting the world read into your personal life and read your thoughts...because it get's us thinking, too. :)
~Deanna
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