
Many scrapbookers knew Aleida Franklin. She was a wonderful wife and mother and a brilliant artist. I didn't know Aleida personally, but she taught me something I will never forget.
She emailed me last year to tell me she loved my blog and to ask if I like my short hair-cut. This lead to a series of emails which eventually led me to remark that I really loved how often she posted pictures of herself with her children on her blog. And she replied to me, "Have you ever seen a photograph of your own mother and thought to yourself how fat she looked? Or how she wasn't wearing make-up? Or wasn't dressed in a glamorous outfit?" Of course my answer was no.
She then responded with saying that she made it a goal to take a picture of herself with her children at least once every month. And that to use excuses about how we look, as women, is ridiculous, since our children will never care what we looked like, but only that we had physical evidence of the bond between mother and child. Aleida tragically and unexpectedly passed away last September, leaving 2 small children and a grieving husband. After she passed I thought of how those children must feel to have those precious photographs.
I have made it my personal goal to follow her wise suggestion and I now take photos of myself with my children....double chins, make-up free, bed-head and all.
I invite Mothers everywhere to take Aleida's Challenge. To photograph yourself with your children each and every month. And to post them here so that we can see Aleida's legacy unfolding. If you want to share your projects and get encouragement, join the new Aleida's Challenge Flickr Group.
















48 comments:
Wow...those are the very reasons I don't allow myself to be in photos! I am too critical of myself and how I look physically! But what Aleida said is so true...our children don't care, they love us unconditionally! I going to attempt this challenge although I know it will be hard to get over my insecurities! Thanks Emilie for passing on Aleida's courage and love for her children/family!
I too, was incredibly saddened by Aleida's passing and often thought to myself after, her children are so lucky to have all of those wonderful photos of them together! I've joined your group Emilie, and I'm going to get in front of the camera for a change! btw - the photos on this post are just beautiful.
what are you talking about, you look gorgeous in those photos with your girls. Well i know you weren't looking for a compliment, but still! Great point that I needed to hear.
Awesome!!! Love that your inspiring people to take more photos AND of themselves WITH their kids. LOVE THAT!
Thank you! Going to blog and send more people over!!
love, love, love your pictures and you're so right!
This is a wonderful post... so true. Thank you for the reminder. :-)
Such an important idea. make-up is over rated.
*sigh* that is the most beautiful post I have ever read....she was an AMAZING woman!!!! Thanks for this! :):):):):):):):):)
Just what I needed this morning. Being a mom is a hard job, we are so critical of ourselves in how we do things and how we look. Not everything has to be perfect and we don't have to look perfect all the time either. Or ever:) Anyway thanks for the great post and I'm gong to give it a try!
I miss Aleida - I need to get myself in more photos too. I posted about this back in September
http://greenapplegirl.typepad.com/green_apple_girl/2008/09/say-it-in-pictures.html
I'm so thrilled that there are lots of other moms out there doing this!
what a great idea. I needed this today.
i am in.
love this, love this, love this Emilie-thanks for passing the idea on. Think of how precious those pic's will be to you in 20 years!!!! I'm getting my camera out to do this today!!!
Fantastic advice, Emilie. And lucky for you you're SO photogenic! I've never seen a bad picture of you. :-)
OK.
Sniff.
I was just wondering how you got all those wonderful pictures. Did you take them yourself or have someone else take them? By the way, I don't know if you have makeup on or not, but you look beautiful.
I have just found your blog through a post on AMR and I'm so glad I did. Thnks you so much for posting this challenge. I'm going to pass this challenge on to my friends and family.
I remember hearing of Alieda's untimely departure and swallowing the hard truth, that I, too, fall guilty of not taking enough pictures with my children. I wish to take this oath and at least once a month find the everyday moments that let my children know how important they are to me.
Thank you, Emilie, for reminding me of Aleida's conviction and dedication to preserving moments in time.
Ok, I'm convicted. What a good point! I never thought of it like that. But wait, now... these pictures of you don't count, you're still adorable in them!
Wow! I think I needed to have this wake up call. I'm going to "allow" myself to be in more photos with my kiddos.
gonna link you to my blog and get some more folks to read this! My sister in law and I were just talking about this. I have become soooo self conscious ever since I have started this medication. My teeth are awful and my weight is up but I think I care more than anyone else,
I make every excuse under the sun! I HATE photos of myself! Thanks for reminding me I NEED to take these photos! I love photos of me & my mum (few and far between though) Your photos are beautiful btw! On my to do list for tomorrow! :)
Thanks Emilie for reminding us of the importance of getting out from behind the camera! I only happened upon Aleida's blog not too long before she was gone, and her passing touched me in a surprising way. I think it shows how we get to know people we have never met (or even corresponded with) over this wonder of the internet and the special community of scrapbooking and art. I am going to take up the challenge. I will probably need to diarise it though, lol, as time races by so fast! I figure then at least I will get photos regularly albeit a little staged. Thanks again, Lara.
Emilie,
You have once again reached out and touched my soul. This time it was not with an inspiring layout, but with inspiring words.
Thanks.
One of the first sets of pictures I ever scrapbooked was my oldest daughter at 4 getting on a friend's horse for the 1st time. I almost threw away the pictures because I look like a heffer - my shirt is too tight and I have multiple spare tires, and my pants are too tight making the part behind the zipper quite bulge-y. After I scrapped the pictures (mainly to see if I could do it), my daughter ooohed and aaahed and never once said, "mama, you look so fat here." I am what I am and all my daughters care about when they look at those pictures is that I was with them. I try to be a lot less critical of how we look when I'm taking photos now... Thanks for the public reminder to everyone!
I completely LOVE this idea ... I am going to hold myself to do this from this day (month) forward.
Thank you for sharing the story with us.
You are absolutely right. This post brought tears to my eyes. I have to remember that it is important for my children to see me as a part of their lives, not just always somebody 'behind the camera.' This is especially hard for me right now, as I'm 9 months pregnant and feeling very unattractive....but you're right, the kids won't care about that. they'll love me anyway. :)
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This is so true. Every day is a good day and in my case every photo of me is bad in my opinion. I am always behind the camera, so some bad ones are better than none. Will be sharing your blog!~!
Wow, I am humbled...lesson learned. Thank you.
ah, chills... literally! love this emilie. count me in.
xo
thank you so much for this challenge :)
i'm in!!!
now to post my photos on flick'r..
thanks for the push dearie...i needed it :)
xoxo
gi
Wow...this really touched my soul to the inner core. I too am always shying away from the camera due to "all the above". Thanks for telling her story and for helping me to realize the way I look through my children's eyes...Beautiful.
I can't add much more than was already said, but thank you. Her words were so true!
oh my word...I honestly never thought of it this way before.. you have totally inspired me (and my five chins) to step up to the lens and get in more photos with my wee one!
Thank you.....
I learned something too. You never look half as back say 25 yrs ago as you thought you did! I look at them now and think wow! I looked pretty good.
Thank you for reminding me of this great truth.
Your post made me cry. I don't even know this woman but to see what she was able to pass on her to children is such a treasure.
Thanks for sharing your life and you truly are lucky!
Your girls are darling!!!!
this is a beautiful challenge emilie
so true and so needed
for alot of us
thank you.
xo
Funny how this life of ours is.
I don't know you.
I love your hairstyle.
And there aren't as many pictures of me with my children as I'd like because I am overweight and very self-conscious.
Thank you so much for giving me a new and much improved perspective.
Saw your link on a friend's page and I am inspired by this post! I take millions upon millions of pictures of my precious daughter, but I rarely make a debut in said photos. I blog about her constantly but there are never pics of my husband and I on there. I am going to just get over my insecurities and take pictures of myself and my little beauty. All she's going to care about someday is that I WAS THERE!! Thank you for the inspiration!
Wow - the very reason we scrap and here we are worried too much about our appearances! Aleida is so inspiring - I hope she knows how much! So wonderful of her and you to share this philosophy! Many thanks for pulling me back to what it's all about!
This post stopped me in my tracks. I hope you don't mind, but I've taken the liberty to post it and quote it on my blog with links to yours. With Mother's Day coming up I am on a mission to get some photos...of me with my mom and daughter....wow...and THANKS.
Laura
I just found this now (via Cocoa Daisy's blog) and had to comment as Aleida was a dear friend of mine, as she seemed to be of so many people. I love that you created the flickr group and look forward to spending time looking at the entries later when I have time to sit. Thank you!
Aleida was amazing and I was lucky to count her as one of my friends. I think it is awesome how much she touched the scrapping community. I think she was be thrilled to know that others are taking her advice and getting in the photos. Thank you so much! I can't wait to look through the flickr group.
You've done your friend proud with this lovely post, and at the same time managed to give me the kick in the butt I needed. Extra chins and uncombed hair be damned! I'm gonna document my kids AND me from now on. Thank you!
what a great challenge...i'm in (now if I can just get my kids to play along :) )
XO
Annie
this is beautiful, Emily. you and Aleida are both so very correct about this. all the pictures i've ever seen of my mother have all been beautiful...i didn't see anything except mother and, more recently, friend. i was inspired to do this by Aleida as well, but have gotten away from it. thanks for reminding me.
I wish I had known about her before this. She sounds amazing. I so agree with her. And from my vantage point as a senior citizen, I try to impress all the young scrappers I know-when your children are 60 they will not care one bit about their 3rd birthday party if you are not in the picture! I have such a very very few pictures of my parents and myself-and they are the only ones that matter now. So get in all the pictures you can every time you can-they will thank you for it.
This is a great idea. I rarely, if ever, take photos of myself and my kids. I am forever behind the camera. I shall give this a whirl.
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